Watching a friend struggle with drugs or alcohol can be heartbreaking—and confusing. You want to help, but you’re not sure how. The good news? You don’t need to be an expert to make a difference. Here’s how to support someone you care about, safely and compassionately.
Substance use can affect people in different ways, but here are some common red flags:
- Sudden changes in mood or personality
- Withdrawing from friends and family
- Using substances more often or in riskier ways (e.g., at school or work)
- Neglecting responsibilities or personal hygiene
- Spending more money on drugs or alcohol
- Choosing new friends or activities centred around substance use
If your friend seems “off” or is struggling in multiple areas of life, it might be time to check in.
Talking about substance use can be tough—but it’s often the first step toward healing. Here’s how to approach it:
- Be kind, not confrontational: Use “I” statements like “I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately.”
- Pick the right time and place: Choose a quiet, private setting where you won’t be interrupted.
- Listen without judgment: Let them speak freely. Avoid lecturing or trying to “fix” them.
- Be prepared for emotions: They may react with anger, denial, or sadness. Stay calm and supportive.
You don’t need all the answers. Instead, focus on:
- Encouraging them to talk to a trusted adult, doctor, or counsellor
- Sharing resources like helplines or local support groups
- Offering to go with them to an appointment or meeting
In Canada, services like Kids Help Phone (18006686868) and Wellness Together Canada offer free, confidential support. In the U.S., SAMHSA’s National Helpline (1800662HELP) is available 24/7.
Supporting someone with substance use can be emotionally draining. Make sure you:
- Set boundaries
- Talk to someone you trust
- Seek support if you need it
You don’t have to fix everything. Just showing up, listening, and offering support can be a powerful first step. You might be the reason your friend chooses to get help.
For more information, visit:
How to talk to a family member or friend about their drug or alcohol use – Canada.ca
